But….You’re Fat?!

I’m overfat.

I don’t fit the picture of the ideal coach. So why on earth should you work with me?!

It depends on what is important to you. If your idea of a coach is someone with visible six-pack abs and very low body fat, there’s no shortage of them.
Check Instagram. But be aware that many people show pictures of the short window of time they look that way, or use steroids or other drugs, or are blessed with a genetic jackpot.

On the other hand, if having a coach w ho KNOWS what it’s like to struggle with fat loss; who’s been through all the diets and gained the weight back, who understands how that can erode confidence and self-esteem, and still perseveres with eating healthily and exercising regularly, rather than giving up, I’m the coach for you.


I’ve been called all the names above, and more.
But words have lost their power to hurt me. I define myself these days not by how much or how little I weigh, but about what kind of person I am.
How compassionate I am to myself and others. And what benefit I bring to the world.

My weight has nothing to do with that.

I have several things going against me in the fat-loss stakes. I have been on over thirty diets, starting when I was just nine years old. I’ve binged and purged and experienced binge eating disorder and bulimia.
I’ve over-exercised until I’ve bled, and still hated my body.

All of that yo-yo dieting has increased the number of fat cells I have – and added to the genetic pudding I inherited, which is of generally fatter people.
I also have fibromyalgia, a chronic pain and fatigue syndrome, and the medication for that makes most people gain weight.
Im some ways I’m screwed!

But I am also sensible and pragmatic. And I’ve learned that diets are stupid and that eating mostly nutritious foods most of the time makes me feel and perform better. (And that gin, chocolate, pizza, and cake also are part of a balanced life. Everything in moderation.)

My body may be in pain, but it is more comfortable when I exercise and stretch regularly. And slowly, over time, I am losing fat.

Here’s what that means for you:

*I’m compassionate.
*I understand.
*I have an array of tools to help you.
*I have helped other people.
*I’m on your side.
*I’ve found a way through the confusing maze.
*I’m in this for the long haul.

(If I don’t resonate with you, that’s fine. Please go find someone else to work with, so that you can have an extraordinary life. You absolutely deserve it.)

However, if you’re ready to start creating habits which will lead you to healthy eating, purposeful movement, and making peace with the body you’re in, welcome!
Join the Facebook page. Check out my Instagram – @thoughtmatters1. Connect with me. Give yourself a chance.

And get ready to fall in love with yourself all over again!

Jennifer Clare is a therapeutic coach, nutritionist, and author of Stub Out The Habit - Quit Smoking Without Cravings Or Regrets, a book designed to help women break up with their cigarettes. She works with people to alter their mindsets to have truly extraordinary lives and to fall in love with themselves all over again. She lives near London and is either at her computer, in the kitchen, travelling, or working out in the garden.
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