But….You’re Fat?!

I’m overfat.

I don’t fit the picture of the ideal coach.

And for some years now, that stopped me from sharing what I am passionate about with people  – helping them find peace with their bodies and eat a nutritious diet.
Because how could I possibly prove that I know what I’m doing when I’m the size I am?

I’ve held back important information for fear of being shamed about my own body.
But no longer.

Here I am – in all my curvy glory. I am a work in progress.
I walk the walk, and I talk the talk.
And I’m not perfect. I slip up. Make poor choices. Pick myself up again.
Just like you.

So why on earth should you work with me?!

It depends on what is important to you. If your idea of a nutrition coach is someone with visible six-pack abs and very low body fat, that’s fine. There’s no shortage of them.
Check Instagram. But be aware that many people show pictures of the short window of time they look that way, or use steroids or other drugs, or are blessed with the genes that make them look they way they do.

On the other hand, if having a coach who KNOWS what it’s like to struggle with fat loss; who’s been through all the diets and gained the weight back, who understands how that can erode confidence and self-esteem, and still perseveres with eating healthily and exercising regularly, rather than giving up, then I’m the coach for you.

I have been studying nutrition and mindset for years. My head is crammed full of information, and I’ve learned how to separate out the hype and fake news and to look at the evidence of what works for permanent fat loss, and what doesn’t. I’ve already qualified twice over as a nutritionist, and am embarking on another course in September, because it’s so crucial to weed out the real information from the swamp of crap out there in the media.

I wish I’d known it all years ago, instead of waiting until I was a post-menopausal woman, an ex yo-yo dieter, with fibromyalgia.
Oh well. At least I know now – and I’ve been steadily losing fat for over a year by applying what actually works.


I’ve been called all the names above, and more.
But words have lost their power to hurt me. I define myself these days not by how much or how little I weigh, but about what kind of person I am.
How compassionate I am to myself and others. And what benefit I bring to the world.

My weight has nothing to do with that.

I have several things going against me in the fat-loss stakes. I have been on over thirty diets, starting when I was just nine years old. I’ve binged and purged and experienced binge eating disorder and bulimia. I’ve over-exercised until I’ve bled, and still hated my body.

All of that yo-yo dieting has increased the number of fat cells I have – and added to the genetic hand I inherited, which is of generally fatter people.
I also have fibromyalgia, a chronic pain and fatigue syndrome, and the medication for that makes most people gain weight.
In some ways I’m screwed!

But I am also sensible and pragmatic. And I’ve learned that diets are stupid and that eating mostly nutritious foods most of the time makes me feel and perform better. (And that gin, chocolate, pizza, and cake also are part of a balanced life. Everything in moderation.)

My body may be in pain, but it is more comfortable when I exercise and stretch regularly. And slowly, over time, I am losing fat.

Here’s what that means for you:

*I’m compassionate.
*I understand.
*I have an array of tools to help you.
*I have helped other people.
*I’m on your side.
*I’ve found a way through the confusing maze.
*I’m in this for the long haul.

(If I don’t resonate with you, that’s fine. Please go find someone else to work with, so that you can have an extraordinary life. You absolutely deserve it.)

However, if you’re ready to start creating habits which will lead you to healthy eating, purposeful movement, and making peace with the body you’re in, welcome!
Join the Facebook page. Check out my Instagram – @thoughtmatters1. Connect with me. Give yourself a chance.

And get ready to fall in love with yourself all over again!

Jennifer Clare is a therapeutic coach, nutritionist, and author of Stub Out The Habit - Quit Smoking Without Cravings Or Regrets, a book designed to help women break up with their cigarettes. She works with people to alter their mindsets to have truly extraordinary lives and to fall in love with themselves all over again. She lives near London and is either at her computer, in the kitchen, travelling, or working out in the garden.
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